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I Don't Wanna Be My Mother
is now on
Amazon. If you've been a subscriber
for a long while, I have to be honest -- you've read it already. But
look at it this way: all of my wisdom is in one place with
some new insights added.
If you are relatively new to the
newsletter, and especially if you are a boomer
who doesn't want to experience traditional
"senior" decline, this book has your name on
it. You can click on the image above or order
from Amazon in the right hand column. You will
be glad you did!
So, You Don't Wanna Be
So, you don't wanna be your mother? It's
a rare woman who says she wants to age just like her mother.
If you say you don't wanna be your
mother, I know it’s not that you don’t love your mom; it’s just that you
don't want to emulate her lifestyle, or how she thinks. Nothing wrong with
feeling that way if you believe she is experiencing avoidable premature
Maybe you think that in addition to
wanting to avoid her lifestyle and mindset, you want to look younger when
you are your mother's age. That's great, and it’s totally possible. With the
variety of cosmetic procedures available today, any woman can look fabulous
till her money runs out or she runs out of credit cards. A new non-surgical
facelift that uses your own stem cells costs a fraction of a conventional
surgical lift and will last five or more years. Most doctors who do the
procedure allow you to pay over time. So don't waste time worrying about
wrinkles or saggy jowls. They don't make you old and they can be corrected.
What can make you old is what you allow to go on in your head.
Where to Live
of the nicest aspects of retirement is that your work no longer decides
where you have to live. But does that mean moving to a retirement community
in a warm, sunny climate is in your future? That decision involves a lot
more than getting away from your local version of lousy weather.
Where you choose to live needs to be a well-thought balance between what
you've already built and what you yearn for. I'm not talking about square
footage here. Where you live now has a lot of pluses (unless you just moved
You already have your network of resources in place-your primary care
physician and specialists if you need them, your dentist, your hairdresser,
your car mechanic, your plumber. The list goes on, but you get the point:
When you move, you need to find new back up for what you can't do yourself
on, well, pretty much everything.
How to Identify Your True Calling
this question and note how it makes you feel: If
you had to do (HAD to do) one thing for the rest
of your life—for no pay—what would it be? What
you FEEL is a key to learning something about
Some of you had no problem
answering this question. You’ve always known
what you wanted to do and are either doing it or
working your way towards it.
Some of you have never had a good
enough question (like this one) to assist you to
tune into what you really want to do, usually
because others have readily offered their
opinions and reasons as “wise” guidance.
It's time for a new addition to traditional financial planning: We call it
"The Family Meeting."
This kind of meeting serves as a platform for discussing a family's
"legacy," a term we use broadly to include the many financial and personal
aspects that need to be addressed between parents and their future
generations. Of course, we're talking about things like wills and powers of
attorney, but are just the tip of the iceberg. Beyond these standard
necessities, there are many issues that need to be discussed, from
retirement needs and elder care, to legacy planning that involves not just
estate distribution, but personal wishes and desires as well.
Reaching for a Dream
Everyone has at least one dream,
possibly more. Some of us talk about our dreams, others are silent. Many
never mention their dreams even to those closest to them. We might be
surprised to learn the dreams of those around us. None of our dreams will
become reality if we don't reach for them. Regardless of our age, we can
still reach as as we visualize our dream.
Tricks to Help Quit Obsessing When Your Heart's
You know the signs: that sick feeling in
your stomach, those tossing/turning nights, food that tastes like cardboard
and a mind that whirs relentlessly like an old-time computer that refuses to
shut down. When a relationship ends, particularly when you didn't see it
coming, your mind is in torment and it's exhausting.
You've been hit by a tsunami and you're struggling to get your head above
water. You're desperate to understand what happened and what you could have
done differently. In other words, you're obsessed! If you could only get
some relief from your thoughts, you'd feel much, much better. But how?
Lots of useful
and interesting stuff, as usual. In case you
missed seeing it on the TV show "Extra" be sure to
take a look at Marla Maples' mom's new face. It
confirms my contention that the appearance of
your face should be the least of the concerns of
an older woman (or man). Cosmetic procedures are
becoming safer and more affordable.
A Boomer's Guide to Chronic Pain by Dr.
Michael J. Kaye
no testimonial without the test," I once heard
someone say; and is why Dr. Michael Kaye is more
than qualified to share the information he does
A Boomer's Guide to Chronic Pain. As
a Boomer, a chiropractor who assists people with
chronic pain, and someone who manages his own
chronic pain, Dr. Kaye speaks from genuine
experience and understanding. The chapters
provide valuable information to support you in
every area of your life and to make Michael's
mission your own: you may have chronic pain to
manage, but it doesn't have to control you and
your life. Let his knowledge and practical
guidance help you aim at and attain a more
fulfilling life experience--starting today.
You've waited for relief long enough.
Reviewed by Joyce Shafer, Life Empowerment
Coach, author of I Don't Want to be Your Guru,
but I Have Something to Say, and
State of Appreciation.
(See Dr. Kaye's
excellent exercise video on
Since you position getting older as a positive (and it is!), I thought I'd
submit this letter that my daughter wrote a couple of years ago - and I've
kept it framed on my dresser ever since. She gave me permission to submit
this. Before you read the text, keep in mind that my definition of
"celebrating your independence" does not mean I have to do it all myself.
What I mean is that people should do everything they can to have the skills
to do want they want, when and how they want - i.e. work hard in school,
pursue a dream even if it looks impossible - so you can make your own
choices in life.
Breast Cancer --No One Chose This Journey
being diagnosed with cancer in both breasts,
Fran Padgett launched a mission to fund breast
cancer research projects. This passion led her
to establish The Weathervane Foundation, Inc., a
Texas 501(c) (3) non-profit organization
dedicated to finding the cause and cure of
breast cancer. Serving as Executive Director of
the Foundation, Padgett's efforts have won her
accolades in the community, including the BMW
Hero of the Year Award, and the Denise Veillon
Care, Share and Be Aware Award.
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About Your Editor
Hi, I'm Barbara Morris. My subscribers
know who I am but if you just stumbled
across the newsletter,
I'm the resident pharmacist, opinionated
ageless diva and knower of all things
dealing with aging. I'm Putting Old on
Hold and if you stick with me, I'll help
you do it too!
Why This Newsletter?
This newsletter is intended to help mid-life and
younger women understand that they have the
power to manage their aging process. Even with
unforeseen life events, women can determine 70
percent of the state of their mental and
physical condition 25 or more years into the
future. It's all about developing a vision, and
having the will to plan and prepare. This
newsletter is also intended to inspire women of
every age, to motivate and provide tools to aid
the worthy quest of healthy agelessness.
Books & Videos
Watch Mary Lloyd's new video
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I Don't Wanna
Be My Mother
by Barbara Morris
No More Little Old Ladies!
by Barbara Morris
Supercharged Retirement: Ditch the Rocking
Chair, Trash the Remote, and Do What You Love
by Mary Lloyd
Planning Tools for Bold Retirement Workbook
by Mary Lloyd
by Joyce Shafer
by Lura Zerick
Runaway Husbands: The Abandoned Wife's Guide to Recovery and Renewal
by Vikki Stark
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